Can I pick your brain? How to say no with class.

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Can I pick your brain?

Can I pick your brain? how to say no to people who suck your soul dry

“I’m a new makeup artist, can I pick your brain?”

Most of the time, you don’t know these folks from Adam’s house cat. Many times, we break out in a cold sweat and even hives when we're asked the question, “Can I pick your brain?”

These are the most irritating, frustrating and vague words you can use to ask for advice, but if you're perceived as an expert in your field, you've probably gotten them on more than one occasion. And let's be honest, they're irritating, right?

Listen, I know we all start somewhere, but if you're getting these questions all the time (and you're avoiding the email responses because you have no clue how to say no gracefully) here are some tips and a couple of email templates you can use when people ask you “can I pick your brain?”

1.Be selective about what you say on social media.

Be very discerning with what you share, either online or in person. Spinning your wheels with new artists who leech off you is not only a waste of time, it's frustrating and it takes away your focus and energy from your own biz.

The more you give away, the more these “brain pickers” will come back like a hungry animal that knows where the food is. #whereisthelie?
Eventually, resentment will build up because you haven't set a clear boundary for yourself.

Remember, if you want to share a bit of information, great, but remember, you can't save everyone, and not everyone should be saved. Be very selective in how you share your precious information because you don't owe anyone free coaching lessons. If it's a problem, maybe you should get paid to consult.

2. Your Biz Comes First. Period.

Remember, you have a business to run! Put your oxygen mask on first before you try to save others who try to pick your brain! If you don't have time or the energy to do any private coaching, it's entirely ok to say no my friend.

But what do you do when you get those emails that say “Can I pick your brain?” Of course it's flattering that people look up to you and respect your opinion, but it can get quite exhausting. So what the hell do you write to these types of emails? Have no fear, you KNOW I've got you covered!

3. How to Say No Gracefully

Can I pick your brain? how to say no to people who suck your soul.

FREE EMAIL TEMPLATES TO SAY NO!

Emails are a bitch to write, I know. So I've written out my responses that I send in hopes you find some inspiration. Feel free to copy these templates for your own use. I always kept these in my “canned” responses because I get some many requests (and why I started this website! HA!) I truly want to help people but there are only so many hours in the day. I hope you find these emails helpful!

Email Template #1


In this first email template, if you get a lot of these types of questions, maybe it's time to earn a little coaching money on the side. If you're getting these requests often enough, people see value in you and admire your biz. So, if this sounds like you, email template #1 may be right up your alley.

Dear Brain picker,

Thank you so much for your email. I'm flattered you asked.

Respectfully, as a full time working makeup artist, as you can imagine, my work schedule is completely full so coffee/lunch/meeting is not an option.

However, are you interested in becoming a consulting client? I do consulting for new artists like you, and my rate is _____. Would you like to book a consultation to get you on the path to success?

Thank you so much for thinking of me, let me know your schedule and we can go from here.

Warmly,
Sonia

Email Template #2


In e-mail template #2, this is when you simply don't have time because you're busy AF and can't find your matching socks much less do anyone's coaching. Template #2 is a great way to give them advice without much energy but it gives them some next steps to take so you don't just leave them hanging.

Hi Brain picker,

Thank you so much for your email. I'm flattered you asked.

Respectfully, as a full time working makeup artist, as you can imagine, my work schedule is completely full so coffee/lunch/meeting is not an option.

However, I do get asked these questions often. In response, I encourage you to visit this website Glossible. They have created this site to help aspiring new makeup artists just like you. 

Glossible also has a Facebook group where you can talk to other makeup artists as well. It's such a great resource.

Also, here's another tip: be sure to subscribe to Glossible’s weekly mini-training emails. They come right to your inbox every Monday and are quick bites to get going.

Hope that helps get you on the path & thank you for thinking of me. 

Warmly,
You


In closing, your loyalty and your time should be devoted to running your business. You have my full permission to say no without guilt and run your biz like a boss! Remember, your biz is counting on you and needs YOU to keep it going.

Do you get a ton of these types of requests? Leave me a comment below! I would love to hear!

Cheers to your continued success,
Sonia

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